What is an Attentionometer?

This is a continuation from the two previous posts about David Delp’s talk on connecting with what matters. He encouraged setting goals every week.

The first step is to figure out what your’e paying attention to.

The second step is to then look at what you’d like to pay more and less attention to.

Once you see what’s most important, it’s not about how long it takes. It’s small things. Like a phone call.

“Our attention happens in the smallest moments and they happen in the smallest ways,” said Delp.

In Roman times sports were used to distract citizens from paying attention to what the government was doing.

The Attentionometer was introduced in a short workshop after Delp’s talk. It came in a small hand-sized pouch, like the kind you’d imagine is full of golden nuggets and easily fits in your purse or backpack. Inside were sticks the shape of popsicle sticks that were color coded to represent the various sectors of life, like green for financial, red for love, etc. And to begin using the Attentionometer, we laid out three cards, like 3 headers to three columns in a document. “Not Enough,” “Enough,” and “Too Much” were the three headers.

This was a lovely visual inventory of where time was going. There’s more to the Attentionometer. David Delp’s giving a workshop on Sunday, January 30th in San Francisco: “The Game of Goals, How to Make Going There Even Better than Getting There.” For more details see his site at GameOfGoals.com.

What are goals about, really? Delp says it’s about making a plan, doing it and seeing how it goes.

What’s Your New Year’s Ritual?

Double Joy
Double Joy, photo by Mary Gow
This a continuation from my most recent post which was David Delp’s talk about connecting with what’s important. He has invented the Attentionometer, which will help you take a look at where your units of attention are going.

Delp said that he welcomes every new year with the same ritual. He meets with a group of friends who write out what happened over the past year, what they were embarrassed about, what they were proud of, and then they burn it. And then, they eat.

After the meal there’s one more step. They write what they want for the coming 12 months and complete the sentence “Before I die, I want to.” How to complete such a big question? Delp suggested looking at the roles we play in life, for example, “Before I die, as a father, I want to help my daughter find her strength.”

“Before I die I want to know my oldest brother,” Delp shared. And he said here is where we can look at one small thing to do, and the resonance comes from the tiny things. Delp said he made the small step and called his oldest brother.

So what are five things you want to do before you die?

My next post will talk about Delp’s Attentionometer.

David Delp on Connecting with What’s Important

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The energy of the new year inspired me to attend a zealous talk given by David Delp about connecting with what’s important.

A designer by trade and an artist by heart, Delp is creative director of Designing a Balanced Life. He teaches a 10 week course of the same title at a local college and has invented the Attentionometer and The Game of Goals. (See future postings for more about the Attentionometer and information about his upcoming workshop).

“Goals don’t make us happier. What we really want is feeling immersed in something important to us,” said Delp. He referred to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s book, Flow.

“Our attention is our most precious resource. Yet we give it freely to strangers who also take our time, money and energy and give little back. Learn to focus your attention and everything else will follow. Learn to lose yourself doing something you care about, and the world is yours again.”

What we are striving for is resonance. And Delp said resonance is when our hearts line up with our minds. Our breath is what gets our hearts connected to our minds. So we took a long pause and a deep breath.

Read my next posting for more of David Delp’s inspirational talk.

3 Key Words for 2011

As you may gather from my postings, I attend a lot of talks/lectures/workshops! One of the reasons I blog is because it quenches three interests at the same time: 1) writing; 2) sharing (with the desire to be of service and a source of inspiration); and 3) creativity and how to cultivate it.

Last week I went to a class taught by a friend who hosts regular helpful talks on how to live and love more effectively. In our latest class, which was last week, the topic was how to use your intuition to achieve your goals.

One of the many worthwhile things we went over this evening, was a message that the three most important things to cultivate and concentrate on are: 1) joy; 2) appreciation; and 3) gratitude.

The more we can focus on creating these qualities through people, situations, thoughts and feelings, the higher we will raise our own vibration. And what happens when you raise your vibration? What you wish for that matches that vibration has an easier chance of finding you!

Does there appear to be an affinity for sets of 3?